Why modern dating in my 20’s is killing me off
Let me get real with you here – I’m single and actively dating. I will happily admit that. BUT 10 points to whoever can answer me this:
When did dating become so shitty?
The more I put myself out there and “date”, the more I want to stab myself in the eyes with scissors. I mean, even the term dating confuses the crap out of me.
Is it down to the fact I come from a generation where dating is no more than casual hookups and technology induced awkward interactions between two people who have no idea what they’re doing?
OR is it that I’m just dating complete and utter dickheads who have absolutely no intention aside from getting in my pants?
I’m gonna place a bet on the latter. I’ll be clear – I’m not saying I want a relationship but I kinda just want to hang with a guy, take spontaneous car rides at 2am, stuff our faces with pizza, watch movies and visit new places.. so yeah basically a relationship but without it being a relationship…
I was talking to mum and we had this whole conversation on what dating meant to her. Back in the olden days – I kid she’s not actually that old – the term dating meant you were exclusive to one person.. all be it if it was just for a week or two. Bottom line you were boyfriend and girlfriend.
Enter 2018 and it gets a whole lot more confusing.
We use terms like fuck buddies, the side piece, it’s complicated, a relationship, talking to someone.. come on! WTF do any of these mean? In what world is a girl supposed to know where she stands?
Of course, there is no way to tell what the outcome of every interaction will be when you date, online or otherwise, but I sure as hell know honesty is the best policy.
If you’re not looking for something serious.. tell me, if you’re looking for a girlfriend.. tell me, if you want a bang and to never talk to me again.. TELL ME!
Too often I talk to a guy who explicitly says he doesn’t want a relationship but what he meant was he didn’t want one with me. All I ask is be clear so I know how to handle the situation.
And basically to stop myself liking you..
I’m just grateful I have a world of people around me who give me great advice and know me so well.
What are your experiences of online dating? Do you find it difficult in your 20s to find anything more than just a hook up?